Making Networking Work For Conferences and Events in Manchester
01 Sep 2017
In the events industry, one of the predicators of your success is your ability to build relationships with influential people who connect powerfully and create high-trust relations fast. And just like them, you can learn to effortlessly create profitable, winning connections with anyone you want. While industry events are ideal places to find potential customers and partners, often the results are disappointing. You do everything the experts say: shake hands confidently, look people in the eye, and give them a well-rehearsed pitch. The person shows interest so you hand them your business card. But then nothing comes of it.
Over time I've learned that when it came to meeting people I'll actually do business with, there's a much better way than prepared introduction and handing out the business card. The secret is this: rather than network, aim to connect with people. What's the difference? If you're focussed on meeting as many people as possible to tell them what you do with hopes of a sale, that's networking. If you're focussed on finding people for mutual benefit and establishing a relationship based on how we can help one another, that's connecting.
Here are three actions that will have you getting the results you want when attending live events. And, if you plan events, some tips on how to support attendees in making valuable contacts.
1. Attend The Right Events
Go where the people you want to meet spend time. This seems intuitive but many don't consider who they want to meet and why. Once you are clear it becomes easy to find events where these people are.
For example, if you want to meet a top industry influencer, research where they go to network. If they are nominated for an award, grab a ticket to the gala ceremony. If they just wrote a book, watch for events where they are the featured speaker. Before attending do your homework. Learn as much about the person's likes and interests as you can. Then when you meet them you'll have a great foundation for making a connection.
To some degree, most people feel awkward about meeting people for the first time - so if you get jittery, know it's natural. Neuroscientists have discovered that the same region of the brain that registers pain, also registers emotional pain. You avoid stubbing your toe. Likewise, you avoid being rejected.
Here's how to make connecting painless:
Find someone you know as soon as you arrive. Get warmed up by having a conversation with them first. Once you've made a first connection, you will feel more confident talking to someone you don't know. However, what if you cannot find a familiar face?
Look for someone who is smiling. Again neuroscientists discovered pathways in the brain that mirror other people emotions. When someone is smiles you feel good, and feeling good makes you feel confident.
Always smile when you meet someone since mirroring works both ways.
Tip for Event Planners: On the registration page of your event website, be clear about who will be attending your event including speakers and dignitaries. Some registration sites even provide an option to show names of registered attendees.
2. Become a Great Conversationalist
Some believe extroverts have an easier time than introverts at meeting people. That may be true. But introverts make great connectors because they tend to listen more than they speak.
For example, I'm an introvert; but when I learned to ask great questions, it became easy to initiate and carry meaningful conversations with anyone. And I liked that it took the focus off me. Therefore, be curious about everyone you meet - you never know where the opportunity is waiting. Case in point, I got a client in an elevator where I literally had 30 seconds to connect.
Start with a general introduction by asking someone their name and what they do. Then ask some open-ended questions to find something in common. For example, ask about their interests. Or take notice in something their wearing. Find something you have in common. It could be a hobby, last name, same industry - whatever. Find something - this is the easiest way to connect.
Share some of your thoughts on this common topic. keep in mind that conversations start with general topics and get more interesting as you get more specific. As you share on a common topic, you'll start to feel connected. When you do, ask one of the following questions to move the conversation deeper:
What are you most passionate about right now?
What's your top project?
Again stop talking and listen carefully for clues that you can help them. Ask clarifying questions that reveal whether they need what you have to offer.
When you discover what people want, then and only then offer a way to help someone reach a goal or solve a problem. This works because your offer to help builds trust. And people do business with people they trust.
3. Forget About Pitching - Here's Why It Doesn't Work
In a recent video clip with Dr Ivan Meisner, founder of BNI, the world's largest networking organisation. Dr Meisner recalls asking a live audience to raise their hand if they attended to sell. Almost every hand went up. He then asked who had come to buy something. Not a hand went up.
He proved the point - no one attending a networking event comes to buy - so stop selling. Instead engage in great conversations by asking questions that identify what someone wants. offer to help them get it. Then get permission to book an appointment to discuss further. Now it's time to ask for their card including how you will contact them and when. Or open your phones and schedule the meeting on the spot.
Always remember the best way to build more trust is to do agreed next steps, which leads to following up in a way that builds you new connection.
Tip For Event Planners: Have friendly hosts available to introduce attendees to one another. Provide name tags sp people don't have to remember someone's name. Use an app like The NetworkingEffect.com. It allows people to search for people at the event and send a message to meet at a convenient time and place.
Building a maintaining relationships in business is the same for any relationship. Rather than being concerned about doing it right, each day practice getting better. Over time you will be a pro who makes people feel important and comfortable.